Dear Kate,

I’ve been having sex dreams about a work colleague, I can’t help but feel attracted to him when we are working together and find it hard not to flirt. The problem is we are both in relationships. What should I do and what do these dreams mean?



You may be relieved to learn that sex dreams are very common, while often leaving individuals bewildered and questioning their significance so let’s dive in to what these dreams might mean:

What do sex dreams about work colleagues really mean?

There is obviously no definitive answer to this question, as the meaning of dreams can vary from person to person. However, there are some possible interpretations that the dream is simply a reflection of your subconscious desires. If you find yourself attracted to a work colleague, but you are not acting on those feelings, it is possible that your dream is a way of exploring those desires in a safe and harmless way. Another possibility is that the dream is a way of dealing with stress or anxiety at work. If you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed by your job, the dream may be a way of releasing those emotions. But guess what? It is also possible that the dream is simply a random occurrence that has no deeper meaning. Sometimes, dreams are just dreams.

Now, let’s dive into how to handle these recurring dreams:

  • Calm your nerves: If you have a sex dream about a work colleague, the first thing to do is to remember it is just a dream and in reality, you’re the only one who knows about it. There is no need to panic or feel guilty. Dreams are not always a reflection of reality, and they do not mean that you are a bad person. Once you have calmed down, you can start to think about why you had that kind of dream so you can assess the level of closeness with your partner.
  • Take ideal steps: If you think that the dream is a way of dealing with stress or anxiety at work, you may want to try to identify the source of your stress and take steps to address it. This could involve talking to your boss, taking on less work, or finding ways to relax outside of work. This could also mean taking a break or working remotely if possible to limit contact between both of you.

If you think that the dream is simply a random occurrence, there is no need to do anything. Just forget about it and move on. Sex dreams about a colleague can also be a mirror to your emotions. Your brain might be highlighting a need for better communication or collaboration in your relationship, and the colleague in your dream could serve as a symbolic messenger. Rather than focusing solely on the sexual aspect, explore your feelings within the dream. Were you embarrassed, excited, or confident? These emotions can provide valuable insights into your life.

In conclusion, sex dreams about work colleagues can be confusing and even disturbing, but they are not necessarily a sign of anything wrong. In the grand scheme of things, sex dreams about a work colleague are just dreams. They’re fleeting manifestations of your subconscious mind and don’t necessarily carry profound romantic or sexual significance. Instead of fixating on the specifics of the dream, use it as an opportunity for self-reflection and a deeper understanding of your emotions and professional life. I really hope this advice has helped you out.